Train Your Mental Toughness #1/4 - Thrive in Everything You Do

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If there is something I’ve learned about success and achievement, is the importance of your mental strength over any other ability or quality you may possess.

We’ve all heard the quote “mind over matter”, and it is quite true; you can achieve anything if you set your mind to it.

For the next 3 weeks, we’ll be delivering 4 blogs with tips on how to build your mental toughness, and the topics will cover the following:

  1. Focus on yourself first
  2. Discover your purpose
  3. Define your path
  4. Create a supportive environment for your new purpose

So, let’s start with the first one then:

Focus on Yourself First

If you want your mind to become an undefeatable weapon at your service, self-awareness is the place to start.

Self-awareness is the ability to look at yourself without any attachment to what you’re going to find. You just look at what is there; emotions, thoughts, patterns… you evaluate everything objectively.

This is the only way to know where you actually stand, what is your starting point. One way to establish your self-awareness is using a journal.

Find a quiet place and use least some 10 minutes a day to write about your thoughts, feelings, etc.
This will be your starting point.

Now you need a destination; something to move towards to.

There is a great tool widely used by the renowned coach Jack Canfield called Vision Board, which can help you define your “destination point”. In it, you simply add pictures or drawings of the things, events, and situations you’d want to achieve for you.

Before taking on these exercises, try doing some deep breathing to center yourself, and spend some time reflecting on who you are, where you are, and what you want for your life. These two points of focus (your actual and your future self), when practiced as a reliable habit, will give you enough knowledge about yourself to move on to the next step in this path to mental toughness: Discover Your Purpose, which we’ll be covering it next week.

Until then, keep going, stay strong

Cheers!

 

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The Right Mindset for Successful Networking (Part 3/3)

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In previous blogs, we mentioned that successful networking requires the right mindset. We also mentioned that n order to create the right mindset you have to:

  • Become a member of the club
  • Don't keep score
  • Define what's your mission
  • Build it before you need it

We will now discuss the fifth block required to build the right mindset:  Audacity

The genius of audacity:

  • People with a low tolerance for risk whose behavior is guided by fear, have a low propensity for success
  • Mustering the audacity to talk with people who don't know me often simply comes down to balancing the fear I have of embarrassment against the fear of failure and its repercussions. For me, I either ask or I am not successful. That fear always overrides my anxiety about rejection or being embarrassed
  • Find a role model - need someone to unconsciously affirm our own behaviors
  • Learn to speak
  • Get involved
  • Feel most comfortable when you're doing something you enjoy
  • Being a leader in life takes practice, so practice
  • Get therapy
  • Might help you address your own fears and social anxieties in a more productive way
  • Just do it
  • Meeting with one new person a week
  • FAIL, FAIL AGAIN, FAIL BETTER
  • State the situation. You go right in and hit them with how you see it in the cold light of day, without being too inflammatory or dramatic. You need to know where you stand
  • Communicate your feelings - encounters take on depth and sincerity
  • Deliver the bottom line
  • Use open-ended questions - less threatening 

 

 

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The Right Mindset for Successful Networking (Part 2)

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“Work actively towards becoming a member of a network “ and “ don’t keep a score” were the two actions we mentioned in our previous blog in order for you to create and maintain the right mindset for building successful networking relationships.

The following are another two additional actions which are required:

Identify your Mission

Would you tell me please which way I ought to go from here? That depends a good deal on where you want to get to

The more specific you are about what you want to do, the easier it becomes to develop a strategy to accomplish it.

Key is to make a setting goals a habit. If you do that, goal setting becomes a part of your life. If you don't it withers and dies.

 

Step one: find your passion

  • A goal is a dream with a deadline
  • Look inside
  • Important about conducting an internal review is to do so without constraints, doubts, fears, and expectations of what you "should" be doing
  • Dreams and goals (make list)
  • All the things that bring me joy and pleasure, the achievements, people, and things that move me
  • Ask the people who know you best what they think your greatest strengths and weaknesses are. Ask them what they admire about you and what areas you may need help in
  • Look outside

 

Step Two - putting goals on paper

  • Connecting the goals to the people, places, and things that will help you get the job done. Determine the best way to reach out to the people who will help you accomplish your goals.
  • Connecting with others really just involves having a predetermined plan and carrying it out, whether you want to be a ninth-grade history teacher or start your own business.
  • Goals must be in writing. Have a conviction to put your intentions to paper. An unwritten wish is just a dream. In writing, it’s a commitment, a goal.
  • Goals must be specific, measurable, have a due date, be believable, be challenging and demanding,
  • Take action

 

Step three - create a board of advisers

 

Build it before you need it

  • Know that you must reach out to others long before you need anything at all
  • Start finding future clients today. Had he thought about what kind of industry he wanted to be in? Had he thought about where the top people in that industry hang out? Next step is to go hang with this group of people
  • Get to know these people as friends, not potential customers
  • Volunteer your time to a nonprofit organization they're involved in, or aid in publicizing a school fundraiser their kids are involved in
  • Once you've got an established client that will provide references and create some word of mouth you're halfway home
  • But to be constantly creating the environment and community you want for yourself, no matter what may occur.
  • Offer out knowledge and work ethic to small companies, learn about new industries, references and contacts when we graduated
  • It's easiest to reach out to those people who are at least tangentially part of your network
  • But the first step has nothing to do with strangers, you should start connecting with the people you do know.

 

 

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How to Reach Your Goals Even Under Pressure

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Often times we reach our goals under pressure. The reason many people haven't tried it, is because it is very uncomfortable and puts you under a lot of strain. A lot of people haven't reached the place they want to be because they are afraid of going all in and having that pressure on them to succeed. 

 

Here are the three ways to reach your goals through pressure:

1. Step far outside your comfort zone

In order to do this, you have to be willing to put yourself out there regardless of what others might think. You have to be so grounded in your purpose that you're willing to do whatever it takes to reach your goals, no matter how uncomfortable it might be.

How to apply this: A great exercise to start training your brain to go outside your comfort zone is whenever you see an opportunity aligned with your purpose, go for it without thinking about it. A lot of times overthinking can kill our dreams "what if this, what if that!" No, tell the voices in your head to shut up and just throw yourself into the opportunity and calibrate as you go on... You'll be happy you did afterward (no regrets, just massive action). 

 

2. Take advice but let your heart make the final decision

Okay, this is very important, a lot of people will tell you what they think is best for you or put you down because they're too afraid to follow their purpose in life. Although advice can really help and you should always take it into consideration, in the end, have the courage to follow what is in your heart, when you feel the passion and you are certain of what your heart is telling you, you will feel pressured to pursue (Don't ignore that feeling).

How to apply this: Next time people give you advice on a very important decision listen carefully, take it in consideration, then go into a completely silent spot with just you and your thoughts and listen to what your heart is telling you (Then do step 1 again and again and again).

 

3. If you're not failing, you're not trying

Forget about being scared to fail! The people who never failed in life are the biggest failures of all because they stayed in the same place and never went after want they wanted. Every-time you fail, be excited because you are one step closer to that one moment that will make you reach your goal. Take the pressure of failure to make you strive for success and eventually success will come.

 

How to apply this: Whenever you fail, look at yourself in the mirror and say "I'm ahead of everyone that isn't even trying, I've learned something valuable and I'm ready to keep going! Let's do this!" and then growl or roar or howl out loud, and finish off with a smile. This will put you at ease and amp you up to keep going. After repeat step 1 over again!

It's important to know that these three steps fit together like a puzzle, if one is missing, you won't be able to reach your goal. If you're reading this and you haven't accomplished what you want in life, it's time to put pressure on yourself... stop procrastinating! I promise you that when you start doing this you will feel stronger and happier, no matter how hard it gets.

"The feeling of doing something way outside your comfort zone that is in line with your purpose is indescribable but it's worth living for, don't stay numb and live in autopilot, go live the life you were meant to live... We are all here for a reason, once you find it, feel the pressure and go for it.

 

 

One of the core values we have as a company is to inspire and empower people in all aspects of their lives. Additionally, if you want to read about our Custom Software Solutions and Consulting Services, please visit www.isucorp.ca

 

The Right Mindset for Successful Networking

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The ability to connect with others, truly connect, is what makes people become successful.

Success in life equals to the people you meet plus what you create together, with those people.

In order to be effective and successful in networking, you have to have the right mindset and the right skill set.

The right mindset and skill set comes from building honest relationships; people that you trust and who trust you in the same manner – an honest mutual trust.

In order to have the right mindset you have to follow a certain philosophy and the following actions:

 

Work actively towards becoming a member, a member of a network:

  • Always analyze, where are the places you go to meet the kind of people who could most impact your life?
  • Meet people inclined to be mentored or who are eager to mentor you - people you guide, people who guide you.
  • Be conscious and aware, that, real networking is about finding ways to make other people more successful; their success will become your success.

 

Don't Keep Score

  • It’s not about "how can you help me?" but "how can I help you?"
  • However, become as willing to ask for help as you are to give it
  • Relationship are like muscles, the more you work them, the stronger they become
  • Trust is the main cornerstone, relationships are solidified by trust
  • Bottom line: it's better to give before you receive. And never keep score. If your interactions are ruled by generosity your rewards will follow suit.

 

 

One of the core values we have as a company is to inspire and empower people in all aspects of their lives. Additionally, if you want to read about our Custom Software Solutions and Consulting Services, please visit www.isucorp.ca