Happiness

Your Words can Change your Life

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Words can be a simple but powerful tool to immediately change the quality of your life; both for the better or for the worse.

It might seem a far-out concept, but language can actually shape our behavior, and consequently, our lives; even those we say to ourselves and those inside our mind).

Each word we use is imbued with our own meaning and emotional charge. The right words spoken in the right way can bring us love, money, and respect; while the wrong words can get create a world of fear, anger, and suffering.

 

It’s important to carefully evaluate the words we tend to use in a constant way because they tend to shape our experiences regarding the situation we’re describing.

 

Words can transform our emotions, and shape the course of our destiny.  Beliefs are created by words, and they can also be changed by them.

They provide the vehicle for expressing and sharing our experiences with others, but the words we choose also affect how we communicate with ourselves, and what we end up experiencing every given moment.

 

We also tend to respond to other people’s words; they have an emotional impact on us.

For example, if someone tells us “I think you’re mistaken”, or perhaps “I think you’re wrong”. Our biochemical response is going to be different; and even more if we hear “you’re lying!”


The same thing happens with the words we use within ourselves, but we tend to not realize its impact consciously.

 

How many times have we said something like “he stabbed me in the back!”; although it’s hardly the case.

Coming upon an unexpected inconvenience, we sometimes overreact with internal or external expressions like “I’m pissed off!”… 

In both cases, this word choice leads us to an enraged state, it actually worsens our condition and ability to deal with the situation.

 

What if, instead of adding fuel to the fire with words like “I’m devastated”, we purposely de-escalate this situation with a wiser choice of words; ones that convey the same meaning, but that has a comical connotation to us, like “it’s beginning to peeve me”…

I bet it put a slight smile on your face just by reading it…

 

We can also use this trick to enhance an already good situation; for instance, next time you feel good about something, instead of saying “I’m pleased”, why not try “I’m ecstatic!”?


Whatever words you hold in your mind and use on a consistent basis will directly shape your thoughts, which in turn will shape your actions, which in turn will shape your entire destiny.

Give it a try.
Stay strong!

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Compassion Serves you Better than Selfishness

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In today's fast pace environment, the culture that has been embedded into society is the culture of the "me". It's a culture which teaches that in order to be successful you have to look after yourself without concern to others, a culture of self-interest.

This culture of selfishness teaches people that in a highly competitive world, only the ones who outperform others will be successful.

It's a culture which creates loneliness, rejection, emptiness.

In reality, Humans are social creatures, happiness happens only when people interact with each other with a common goal and purpose.

Life becomes meaningful and fulfilling only when people know they belong to a circle where each one looks for the interests of each other for the common benefit.

Kindness and compassion make people more productive, trustworthy, loyal and healthy.

You only succeed when people around you succeed, society only benefits when most of its members succeed.

One of the core values we have as a company is to inspire and empower people in all aspects of their lives. Additionally, if you want to read about our Custom Software Solutions and Consulting Services, please visit www.isucorp.ca

Improve Your Life, Two Minutes at the Time, Part 2

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Let’s continue here with our last week’s blog about changing our lives for the better, two minutes at a time.

Change judgment for understanding

When you’re inclined to past judgment to others, first take two minutes and ask what aspects of yourself do I see in this other person?

When we’re upset about somebody else’s behavior or actions, is because it is reminding us of something we don’t like about ourselves.

If we can turn this inner critic into a coach, we can help create a better relationship with ourselves, with others, and live a more positive life.

 

Compliment others

Get into the habit of coming up with ways to tell others –and by others I mean people who are actually present there with you at the time- what you truly appreciate about them.

Take one minute to think about the reason, and another minute to tell the compliment.

You will make this person happy for sure; you’ll feel good about yourself, and most likely will receive some happy and affectionate feedback in return.

 

Hug more

It might seem like a small deed, but it’s known to reduce stress and make us feel very good; so spend –at the very least- two minutes a day hugging people!

Like compliments, hugs can be a simple way to build warmer and more positive relationships with people in your life.

 

Be interested instead of interesting

Whenever you engage in a conversation with someone, be interested in that person; ask questions about his or her life, interests, passions, and don’t just wait for your turn to talk back, really pay attention to the answers… Get to know and appreciate that person.

The interest you give will most likely be returned in what surely will build into not just a conversation, but a giving and fulfilling relationship.

 

Shuffle things up a little

Change things, mix them up… whatever you’ve been doing, try something different this time; for instance:

If you always go for the meat, next time try vegetarian.

If you tend to get into conflict often, next time try walking away.

Give away some of your favorite things.

Say yes to something spontaneously and stick to it to the end, see where it leads.

Take a different kind of decisions for today.

 

Get into the habit of mixing things up and have some fun. Grow your life in small or bigger ways, add unexpected experiences to it.

This practice will make it easier and simpler to step out of your usual comfort zone when you really need to, and also it will make you feel alive!

 

Talk next week.

Until then, stay strong!

One of the core values we have as a company is to inspire and empower people in all aspects of their lives. Additionally, if you want to read about our Custom Software Solutions and Consulting Services, please visit www.isucorp.ca

Improve Your Life, Two Minutes at a Time

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“The distance is nothing; it is only the first step that is difficult.”
Madame Marie du Deffand

Making a positive change in life doesn’t have to be about big moves; world-wide impact, or changing the whole world.

The secret to real change and sustainable action is to discard this pretentious and overwhelming belief and go for smaller, constantly repeated smaller steps.

Through these smaller steps, you can start building habits that will get stronger as you build momentum. These steps have the potential to actually change your life in ways you can’t possibly imagine now.

 

By establishing a two-minute daily routine over the following steps, you will create a habit that would point you in the right direction.  You can choose one a day, or you can invest a little time on yourself and move through the whole list.

 

Identify your most important task, and just start working on it for two minutes.

We all have one of those days when you just don’t feel like getting started with work, and we find ourselves dwelling lazily to the sofa.

It’s not the task itself, the hardest part is getting started. So, after you’ve started moving and working for those two minutes, it gets pretty much easier to just continue working on the task.

 

Review and appreciate your day

Once your day is over, take two minutes to review and appreciate what you have done. See all that you have accomplished; the finished tasks, your performance, the shared moments with friends, family, coworkers, and also the time you took for yourself.

 

Set a low bar for happiness

It doesn’t mean you have to lower your standards or stop going after the bigger stuff, not at all. What it means is that you are willing to appreciate things more, feel happier for the smaller things as well. This will fuel yourself with more energy and inspiration; your life will become lighter, and you will feel less inner resistance as you work towards your goals, big and small.

 

Whenever you feel stressed, BREATH

Whenever stress catches up with you and you start to feel anxious, upset or scared, take two minutes, sit down, breathe through your nose deeply with your stomach, and focus on your breathing.

This will calm your mind, and ease your body so you can resume your work more focused and relaxed.

 

Be here and now

Remove yourself out of the past; stop reliving old experiences of conflict. Stop anticipating a catastrophic future.

Focus your attention on where and when you really are, here and now.
Sit down for two minutes; see what is in front and all around you. Listen to the sounds, feel the wind and the sun on your clothes and skin; the smells in the air, the textures of what you have at hand…

Feel your present for those two minutes, and notice how this new, optimistic viewpoint starts to feel more natural to you.

 

 

I’ve saved the next five for our next blog, so you go ahead and start with these first five steps today; start gaining momentum and building towards a better state.

Start by feeling more alive today.

 

See you next week; until then, stay strong!

One of the core values we have as a company is to inspire and empower people in all aspects of their lives. Additionally, if you want to read about our Custom Software Solutions and Consulting Services, please visit www.isucorp.ca

Live in the Moment

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The art of life is to live in the present moment

Emmet Fox

 

As we mentioned, strategy No. 1 for attaining happiness and fulfillment is to live in the moment.

We all know that we live in a world with a fast-paced environment where everything has to be done at once and right away, multi-tasking is the norm of the day.   People believe that in order to be successful and happy they have to chase the future on a constant basis, your mind has to be always on the next task, the next goal by constantly playing catch-up ... ahhh the rat-race!

 

This tendency to focus on getting things done is of course not categorically negative - accomplishments are good things! Yet constantly focusing on the next thing ironically ends up keeping you from the very success you are chasing.

The problem is, we keep delaying our happiness in favor of getting more things done so that we can be even happier later, or so we think. The delaying process usually goes on forever, damaging the very success and happiness we are seeking. 

 

Instead, live and enjoy the moment, the present. Focus on what's happening in front of you right now - focus on one thing at a time, be present instead of having your mind on the next thing.

 

These are some exercises that may help you live the present:

  • Practice consciously being present:  focus exclusively n the task at hand 

  • Meditate:  it cultivates a state of calm and quiet in your mind

  • Breathe focus: when you find your mind wandering in the past or future focus your attention on your breathing, it brings you back to the present.

  • Truly experience pleasure:  whether emotional (such as love) or sensual (taste, touch or sound) - savor the experience completely

  • Technology fasting:  understand the importance of unplugging, after business hours and weekends, let your mind rest from all the various technology gadgets (yes-including your cell phone) - let your mind rest and relax.

 

 

 

One of the core values we have as a company is to inspire and empower people in all aspects of their lives. Additionally, if you want to read about our Custom Software Solutions and Consulting Services, please visit www.isucorp.ca