Use Fear to Fuel Your Success #2

Fear is the brains’ way of saying that there is something important for you to overcome.
-Rachel Huber

Fear is just excitement in disguise

That’s right; if we look right into it, we’d see that fear is nothing but excitement in a dire need of an attitude adjustment.

Using skydiving as an example, no one can deny that the idea of jumping off a perfectly good airplane in mid-air is close to madness; but many of us really enjoy doing it. It actually can evoke two completely different reactions in people.

Some of them would be thrilled and excited about the idea of “flying like a bird”, feeling the wind in the face and they would relate it to the most absolute freedom.
Some others would be terrified and had to be practically forced off the airplane. They actually feel they are “falling like a stone” at more than 100 mph; they are paralyzed thinking of the way they’d smash against the ground in the end.

The difference between the two types is that the first actually embrace the adventurous nature we all have; a nature that, when embraced, gives us incredible experiences.
For the other type, the idea of doing something outside of their comfort zone feels them with inconceivable terror.

In short, whether we experience fear or excitement, it’s really up to the lens we choose to look through at the experience ahead of us.

And if we think about it, it’s really our choice.

Have you noticed that young children are very resilient to the fear of the unknown?
Most young kids are most daring and fearless than we are as adults. As we move through life, we create layer upon layer of fear and self-doubt in our subconscious mind. Our adult “lenses” we use to see through life are clouded with lack of confidence and negativity.
All we need to do is to clean our lenses and choose what to focus on more wisely; pick excitement instead of fear, practice constantly this new behavior until we master it.

Next week we’ll talk about a way of using fears to energize us instead of paralyzing us.

Until then, stay strong!

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Secrets to Happiness # 5: Gotta Have Some Self-Control

Going back to our Happiness Series, today we talk about self-control

To be happy you have to have self-control.

Self-control has to be exercised at two different levels:

1.     Emotional versus rational:

Remember the reason it\s so hard to be happy: we all have negative thoughts  - because part of our brain (amygdala)  is always scanning the world for problems as a survival tool - it is our emotional side.

On the other hand, we have a rational side in our brain (pre-frontal cortex) which helps you think things through.

The trick is not to control our emotions, but rather to control our reactions to our emotions.

2. More versus enough

Today we live in a culture of more instead of the old culture of enough - it's a growing trend for over a century - known as Consumer Economy.

People are no longer content with enough but wanting always something more; it's not about needs but desires. More, more we all want more. It’s the “Keeping up with the Joneses” syndrome.

When faced with this reality, remember that a persona can have everything if he has the knowledge of having enough.

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Use Fear to Fuel Your Success

“Do one thing every day that scares you.”
-Eleanor Roosevelt

Fear is a common denominator in our lives. It is a current of thought energy that, if allowed, can keep us imprisoned in a useless place of comfort and predictability.

Using fear as a point of reference, we could say there are two types of people:

Type One are those who are controlled and consumed by their fears.

Type Two are those who choose to embrace them, make friends with them and harness their energy to fuel their dreams.

The difference between them is that Type One will surely live an incomplete life of guilt and unhappiness, while Type Two will most likely come out the other side stronger, smarter, wiser and on their way to success.

We all experience fear. It can paralyze us or bring the best out of us, and we’re not talking about danger here; danger is very real, while fear is only the product of our interpretation of certain event in our lives.

It is said that the word FEAR stands for Fantasized Experiences Appearing Real (it’s also said that it stands for F*** Everything And Run, but let’s stick to the first one); whatever you may call it, you can use it to remember what’s important to us, and fuel your success.

For the following 3 articles, we’ll be covering three practical ways to look at fear:

1. Fear is excitement in disguise

2. It shouldn’t paralyze you but energize you

3. It is a great motivator for personal growth

Quoting Eleanor Roosevelt again, you gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this. I can take the next thing that comes along…

Looking forward to our next delivery.
In the meantime, stay strong!

One of the core values we have as a company is to inspire and empower people in all aspects of their lives. Additionally, if you want to read about our Custom Software Solutions and Consulting Services, please visit www.isucorp.ca